HOW TO STOP SELF-SABOTAGE FOREVER

HOW TO STOP SELF-SABOTAGE FOREVER

Self-sabotage: So, what is it?  It’s having a lack of self-belief and/or self worth, a fear of failure, feeling like the outsider, a consistent focus on perceived negative aspects of your self. It usually appears in the form of those pesky internal thoughts that creep in whenever a challenge, a plan or a deadline is presented:

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BUILD YOUR RESERVES

BUILD YOUR RESERVES

Having reserves reduces stress. Reserves of what? Reserves of EVERYTHING! My stress is lowered when I know I have reserves of intangibles, like energy, and reserves of tangibles, like gasoline. Whenever the orange fuel light pops on in my dashboard, my eyes flip down to the lower right side of the dash and there it is, that little orange fuel light that says I better stop soon. If you’re like my kids, you’re thinking, “Yeah, so?” They can drive for days with their fuel light on. My tendency is to want to pull over to the first station I see to maintain my reserves. Running out of gas would not be the end of the world, but it would be a big hassle I’d like to avoid…. And it’s relatively easy to avoid: just stop and refuel.

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WHAT IS YOUR WHY?

WHAT IS YOUR WHY?

Friend, I have a pretty deep question for you today…

What is your motive for wanting to live wisely, choose intentionally, and to live on purpose?

As you reflect on your dreams, goals, and commitments, you will begin to identify ambitions, fears, insecurities, and hopes that powerfully drive your actions. The more aware you are of what drives you, the better you become at dealing with obstacles to your success and making better choices for yourself.

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MAKE GRATITUDE YOUR ATTITUDE

MAKE GRATITUDE YOUR ATTITUDE

Your attitude influences your perspective in any situation or relationship. Your perspective impacts your self-talk, which influences your beliefs. Your self-talk and beliefs are influenced by your intentional or unintentional incorporating of other people’s influences, beliefs, convictions, and insights. Strive to influence your own perspective rather than follow someone else’s. Make sure that your perspective feeds your positive attitude and creates more energy for you. Judgmental perspectives foster negative attitudes that drain your energy. 

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MAKE CHOICES THAT WON’T LEAD TO REGRET

MAKE CHOICES THAT WON’T LEAD TO REGRET

One of the ways to make a final decision to move forward or to make a choice about something is to ask the question, “Which choice will lead to the least amount of regret?”

To give you an example, on days when I have planned to exercise but I have crazy work demands in front of me, I get tempted to forge through the work and skip my workout. I stop and spend a minute or so on some reflection and I recognize that the benefits of my workout on my mind, energy, and stress level will help me get more done. Choosing 30-40 minutes of exercise gifts me with more clarity, stamina and peace of mind, even if it does take time away from my work goals. RARELY has my commitment to workout verses getting more work done resulted in regret.

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THE IMPORTANCE OF BEING POSITIVE

THE IMPORTANCE OF BEING POSITIVE

Your perspective can mean different things. Similarly (but different) from attitude, it can mean a mental view or outlook. It can also be described as the subjective evaluation of relative significance or point of view between people, circumstances or situations. Information often changes your perspective.

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